Written By Alan Good
Last time we asked the question: What do you believe? Have you the faith, the understanding, to be more than what others think of you (or you think, that they think, of you).
Now, we ask, “How do you feel?” or, closer to the point, what do you feel? What do you feel about yourself, your situation? How, or what, do you feel about others?
What is your ‘go-to attitude’ when confronted by another in a negative way, say, by agism remarks? Do you judge? It’s something we all do. We view people—and situations—and make an opinion. Often, it’s not a good or positive opinion.
Rather than accept someone as they are we are really rejecting them. Our opinion is based on how we see them through our own eyes. It is possible we learned these judgements from parents, friends, or the news. And we’ve judged them so long we are not aware we’re doing it. Maybe we feel judged ourselves.
When we do judge another, we are toxic. We are living within a low vibration, negative world, and it’s hurting us! The more we emit our negative opinions, whether to someone else or ourselves, we are living at a low vibration. As stated by scientists and this writer, low vibrations—negativity—can make you sick.
“You have the option of making a good-feeling aspect of another person dominant in your Vibration or of making a bad-feeling aspect dominant, and whatever aspect you regularly choose will become the Vibrational basis of your relationship,” states Gabrielle Bernstein in her book: Release the Beliefs That Hold You Back from Living A Better Life.
Loneliness among seniors is a major concern as it leads to depression and other diseases. Loneliness is often caused by the fact we hold opinions that bring about a rift in relationships.
I have often heard, “That’s just how I am. If others don’t like it, too bad for them!” In reality, it’s too bad for the person holding the grudge, making the judgement, or “speaking their mind”.
That doesn’t mean we can’t have an opinion or speak out when something is amiss. However, some things are better off left alone.
“When you change your thoughts and feelings about another person, you change your energy toward them. The other person will receive your shift in energy and feel released by you,” Bernstein says.
Want to feel better? Show compassion. Love others. See them as they are; perhaps broken, damaged, hurt—like yourself.
Someone once said, “Recognize the other person is you.” See yourself in the other. A wiser person than us said, “He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone…”
When you recognize the flaws in others as similar to your own you are on the way to forgiveness and compassion. Yogi Bhajan said, “If you can’t see God in all, you can’t see God at all.”
Breathe, pray, love.
